By nature I am a very anxious person and it has been this way from a very young age. This would range from small thing like a POP quiz (which is something we couldn't study for, it was just a spur of the moment test) to bigger things, like living away from home on another continent. Weirdly though, the bigger things never intimidated me as much, probably because I could prepare for them, but the things I can't prepare for really give me angst on a daily basis. It is the whole idea of not having control. Today was a little bit like that and of late I have been training my mind not to focus so much on the negative and uncontrollable thing, but rather on other aspects that can be controlled and managed.
Now when things stress me out in my normal day-to-day, I walk away from it completely. I've found (with age and maturity to back me up here) that if you can't control a situation, why waste time fretting over it. Yes, there are some things in your control, like relationships (of all sorts) for example, but your car running out of petrol, so you have to stop for gas and therefore will be late for that meeting, yeah, don't stress about it. I know it is easier said than done, but your alternative is to drive the whole way and potentially get stuck and not just be late for the meeting, but rather miss the whole thing and have to get your car towed.
I think it's about balancing what's worth the stress and what isn't, and I've done my best to have control in most situations but the ones I know that only 5% I can control, I have faith and let it be. And to be fair, I don't know about you but stress causes my body to react and tense up and that physiological mess is not something you need in your life.
While taking a break from my stress today I made this vegan coffee that tasted so delicious and was the perfect "me time" moment that I needed to recenter myself. Because after you make yourself a cup of something yummy, you have no choice but to sit down and enjoy and for that brief moment, you are less stressed and have most likely walked away from something that wasn't healthy for you.
Have a wonderful week everyone!
Recipe: Vegan - almond and cardamom coffee
Makes: 2 coffees
2 cups almond milk
4 cardamom seeds, crushed
2 tbsp. maple syrup
1 cinnamon stick
2 tsp. instant coffee
1/3 cup boiling water
Boil together the milk, cardamom, maple syrup and cinnamon on low until it start to simmer, then give it a quick boil and remove from the heat.
Mix the instant coffee and water, and let it stand for a few minutes.
Strain the milk into a clean glass and then add the coffee, stir and enjoy!